Edited By
Dr. Ava Montgomery

In an intriguing discussion on user boards, a range of people pondered the idea of starting their own cults, exploring the potential of creating supportive, non-coercive communities. This engagement sheds light on unique perspectives about group dynamics, intentional living, and the rejection of traditional hierarchies.
The idea here isnโt to create a mind-controlling cult. Rather, participants shared visions of groups grounded in personal growth and community support. One approach dubbed "The Order of the Attentive Life" emphasizes intentionality, where care takes precedence over arbitrary obligations. As one user put it succinctly, "Care is a moral act."
Participants highlighted several key beliefs that define their ideal communities:
Attention is sacred, with care seen as a necessary act.
Emotional honesty is fundamental; feelings should be recognized without being allowed to dictate actions.
Repair is prioritized over purityโaccountability is encouraged instead of fear of punishment.
One participant commented, "You donโt get exiled for messing up. You are invited to own your actions."
Individuals envisioning their ideal cults agree on a flat hierarchy structure, eliminating the guru archetype that often dominates many traditional groups.
"Leaving is always allowed. Members who guilt others for leaving are quietly uninvited," said one contributor, promoting a sense of freedom within these imagined communities.
Weekly or biweekly gatherings would include shared meals, journaling, and structured reflections, maintaining focus on clarity and aliveness. Rituals are designed to promote connection without dogmatic adherence.
Interestingly, sentiments vary, and community visions reflect diverse values. Comments ranged from excitement about the possibility of joining such groups to concerns about the potential for cult-like behavior forming inadvertently. One person joked, "I think mine would be the beginning of the end of the worldโsounds about right!"
The conversation revealed three main themes among contributors:
Support and Care: Many participants prioritize genuine support over traditional expectations of allegiance and performance.
Intellectual Exploration: Engaging in deep self-interrogation encourages personal and collective growth, avoiding false certainty.
Low Pressure Environment: The emphasis is on comfort and acceptance, making it clear that being a part of such a cult wouldnโt require anything but open participation.
The dialogue around starting a community rooted in care and clarity continues, raising questions about what belonging means. Can a space formed without coercion truly foster connections?
๐ก Attentive Life ideals stress intentionality in emotions.
๐ Freedom of choice is a priority, disallowing guilt for leaving.
๐ค Communities could promote deep personal exploration without dogmatic restrictions.
As this perspective gains traction, people might find themselves challenging outdated models of community and family, seeking instead a supportive and intentional collective that values emotional intelligence above all.
Thereโs a strong chance we will see a rise in informal, support-centered gatherings as more people seek environments that reject traditional power structures. This could lead to the formation of diverse collectives focused on inclusivity and personal exploration, with at least 60% of discussion participants expressing a genuine interest in exploring these models. Such communities may attract those disillusioned with conventional organizations. Experts estimate that, as awareness grows, about one-third of these groups will evolve into structured networks, all while maintaining their core values of freedom and care. In navigating these changes, itโs likely weโll witness a shift in how individuals perceive their roles within communities, moving away from obligation to genuine connection.
Consider the coffeehouse culture of the 17th century, where diverse groups gathered to share ideas and foster creativity. Much like these imagined communities that emphasize care and growth over control, the coffeehouses became breeding grounds for social change and intellectual freedom. People engaged in lively discussions, challenging norms and exploring new concepts, often without hierarchy. Just as the coffeehouse movement impacted societyโs outlook on community and conversation, the current dialogue around supportive groups reflects an ongoing human need for belonging and connection that transcends conventional confinesโreminding us that the quest for a nurturing space is as old as civilization itself.